Have you ever felt happy when someone didn't have a good opinion of you? It's in our nature to want others to think well of us, and we feel pleasure when people are impressed with us. Because of this, a temptation that many people face is to lie, exaggerate, or hide the truth in order to make ourselves look better than we actually are. That's exactly what two people, Ananias and Sapphira, did in the Early Church.
In Acts 5:1-11, the husband and wife decide to sell a field, and give the proceeds of it towards helping the poor. Great! But, they wanted to keep some of the money for themselves, which of course they had every right to do. But because they wanted others to be impressed with them, or to see what sacrifice they made or how much they loved the poor, they told the church leaders the amount they gave was the full amount they sold the field for. In other words, they lied to try making themselves look better than they were.
And what was the result? The Holy Spirit killed both of them.
That might seem extreme, but think about what that says to how extremely seriously God takes lying and truth-telling. God makes an example of Ananias and Sapphira for the early Christians, and I bet none of them did something like that afterwards! Thankfully He doesn't often punish us with death when we sin! God hates lying so much that He included it in the 10 Commandments and in verses like Proverbs 12:22: "The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy."
The root of wanting kudos from others, or to be impressive, or to be thought of better than we are, is pride. The main weapon we have against pride is humility. Humility means not thinking of ourselves as better than we actually are, but also not thinking of ourselves as lesser than we actually are. Humility means we don't always have to talk about ourselves, or share our accomplishments, and definitely not exaggerating them, or lying about our sins or deficiencies.
Humility also means celebrating who others are and their accomplishments. Think of Philippians 2:3-4 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." The rest of the passage talks about how Jesus modelled humility in his life.
In what ways do you try to make yourself look better than you are? This week, who can you show interest in and celebrate, while fighting the desire to put the spotlight on yourself?
This week until next Thursday, please pray with your youth that they would take God and His commands more seriously in their day to day lives, and grow in their love of Him and love of others above all other things.